Bullying in the workplace is more than just the occasional rude remark. It is more than “bad manners.” It is a pattern of behavior that serves to put down and embarrass another person. This is not acceptable workplace behavior!
Here are some choices to consider:
- Talk to a coworker you trust, someone who can be supportive. Your coworker may offer some examples of how he/she dealt with a bully and may be able to help you think more clearly about responding. Don’t be deterred from doing something if you hear, “Oh, that’s just the way he is.” Again this behavior should not be tolerated! You have the right to work without being bullied.
- Talk with the bully in a private place — if you feel safe and if you feel you can do this in a calm, matter-of- fact manner. Know that you’re not the problem — you didn’t invite this abuse or cause it to happen. Keep that in mind while you’re talking to the bully. Describe the behaviors that you want the bully to stop. Give specific, detailed examples. You may want to keep a diary of incidents to help you prepare for this meeting.
- Go to your union leader with the details and specifics of this bullying behavior and ask for help. Describe any steps you have already taken to address the problem. Your union leader can provide support and develop a plan of action to address the bully’s behavior and protect you from retaliation.
You can call LifeSolutions for support as you consider all of your choices for responding to the bully’s difficult behavior. We listen, provide encouragement, and assist you to come up with a plan that feels comfortable for you. Call LifeSolutions at 1.855.209.8762.